When my 27 year old was in school I pretty much stayed to myself and didn’t try to befriend any of the other parents because I was self conscious that they were all older than me.
So now I’m in my 40s and I have a 6 year old in 1st grade.
Seems that most of the parents now are within a few years of my age. Some are mid 30s, some are in their 40s.
Here comes my mistake..ready..
I become friends with one..
She’s a couple years younger than me but we get along great and it just so happens that our kids are best friends.
Here comes the issue..
Without going into details, to protect the innocent, because of a few issues at school, she has ended our friendship and demanded that the teacher keep our kids separated at all times in school.
We all know that kids need to learn to deal with kid drama on their own. We cannot fight all their battles for them or they will not know how to manage relationships when they grow up.
This Mama calls me to tattle on my kid every time her kid tells her something happened at school.
When mine tells me that something happened, I usually advise her to stick up for herself and if that doesn’t work to tell the teacher.
I do not call the other mom and tell on the kid. Of course if it were something serious I would have a conference with the teacher and other parent.
At this point I am done. My daughter is upset because she doesn’t understand why she’s not allowed to be friends with her best bud and I am mad at myself for letting this mom get away with hurting my kid.
My feelings don’t matter here, mostly because I don’t trust anyone anyway and I figured eventually we would part ways. She has waay too much personal drama in her life for me. I am no longer that ‘Let me fix you’ person anymore. I am anti drama..
Of you want to coddle your kid and make him an emotionally dependent baby forever, go ahead.
My daughter will be an independent, free thinking, well adjusted, anti-drama, take no shit woman by the time she hits middle school.